This morning my company left and I woke early (5:30) because I wanted to make sure to say goodbye. As I was laying there listening to the birds sing, another sound hit my ears. Cock a doodle doo. Yup, this is my new life.
And in other shocking news, the a/c is off, windows are open and it's going to rain. Indeed hell might have frozen over here in OKC as this is unheard of. Cool temps and rain in July. I'll take it.
Grief, LM, shows you are a very normal and caring human being. When there is no grief and when it is appropriate to be grieving it suppression or anger. That is much worse. You are sad! That is appropriate! It is important to take care of yourself and others around during this time.
My grief lasted way too long when my dad and son both passed unexpectedly in the same year. It is often a result of unresolved issues with the deceased that causes this. Double whammies are terrible.
Grief, what is grief, the dictionary explains it as:
Grief is a multifaceted response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something to which a bond was formed. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, spiritual, and philosophical dimensions. While the terms are often used interchangeably, bereavement refers to the state of loss, and grief is the reaction to loss.
Grief is a natural response to loss. It is the emotional suffering one feels when something or someone the individual loves is taken away. Grief is also a reaction to any loss. The grief associated with death is familiar to most people, but individuals grieve in connection with a variety of losses throughout their lives, such as unemployment, ill health or the end of a relationship. Loss can be categorized as either physical or abstract, the physical loss being related to something that the individual can touch or measure, such as losing a spouse through death, while other types of loss are abstract, and relate to aspects of a person’s social interactions.
People say “Good Grief”, is that an oxymoron? Is it that what you have lost is a good’ thing? Well then in a case such as Lizardmom posted, her new neighbor has some ‘drama’ going on. In this case it could be a ‘good’ thing if they were to pack up and leave the ‘circle’.
Well in any case, you all have a nice griefless day!
Liz, the pain is fresh and extremely difficult. With time, your brain will help you to sort it out.
Try to continue to maintain as much normalcy as possible: work, cooking and caring for your family, etc. Even when you think you've got it, it will still ambush you at times. Most importantly, tell yourself it is okay to still laugh. Laughter is great medicine.
Alyhough I didnt speak much about it, you all helped me through some pretty rough times by making me laugh. Hopefully, we can do the same for you.
Mary, chicken soup?
P.s. I've claimed the 5th and in 20 minutes, it is legally afternoon tea.
when I came on earlier this morning, I had only about 3 hours sleep, my mind wouldn't stop, so I decided to brown up a roast and get it crocked, good timing, as it was just right in time for lunch :) I started to try working things out in my mind, regrets, sadness, knowing some feelings were results of others. I went back to bed for a few hours, got up slowly, just cuddled with the hubby and am finally starting to feel a little myself again. Thanks to my boss for opening and letting me take the day to heal. LOVE YOU ALL SO VERY MUCH, I know you're here and it means so very very much to feel the love.
Mary, I think every time the rooster wakes you up, there should be fresh eggs delivered to your doorstep and he's just letting you know! now THAT would be cool! (or turn him into rooster stew...)
Grief is a weird beast to conquer. Grief, while hopped up on steroids, a really wicked beast to conquer, but I'll conquer for sure!
ReplyDeleteThis morning my company left and I woke early (5:30) because I wanted to make sure to say goodbye. As I was laying there listening to the birds sing, another sound hit my ears. Cock a doodle doo. Yup, this is my new life.
ReplyDeleteAnd in other shocking news, the a/c is off, windows are open and it's going to rain. Indeed hell might have frozen over here in OKC as this is unheard of. Cool temps and rain in July. I'll take it.
Have a great day everyone.
Grief, LM, shows you are a very normal and caring human being. When there is no grief and when
ReplyDeleteit is appropriate to be grieving
it suppression or anger. That is much worse. You are sad! That is
appropriate!
It is important to take care of yourself and others around during this time.
My grief lasted way too long when my dad and son both passed unexpectedly in the same year. It is often a result of unresolved issues with the deceased that causes this. Double whammies are terrible.
Prayers are sent to you and your family.
Grief, what is grief, the dictionary explains it as:
ReplyDeleteGrief is a multifaceted response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something to which a bond was formed. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, spiritual, and philosophical dimensions. While the terms are often used interchangeably, bereavement refers to the state of loss, and grief is the reaction to loss.
Grief is a natural response to loss. It is the emotional suffering one feels when something or someone the individual loves is taken away. Grief is also a reaction to any loss. The grief associated with death is familiar to most people, but individuals grieve in connection with a variety of losses throughout their lives, such as unemployment, ill health or the end of a relationship. Loss can be categorized as either physical or abstract, the physical loss being related to something that the individual can touch or measure, such as losing a spouse through death, while other types of loss are abstract, and relate to aspects of a person’s social interactions.
People say “Good Grief”, is that an oxymoron? Is it that what you have lost is a good’ thing? Well then in a case such as Lizardmom posted, her new neighbor has some ‘drama’ going on. In this case it could be a ‘good’ thing if they were to pack up and leave the ‘circle’.
Well in any case, you all have a nice griefless day!
Liz, the pain is fresh and extremely difficult. With time, your brain will help you to sort it out.
ReplyDeleteTry to continue to maintain as much normalcy as possible: work, cooking and caring for your family, etc. Even when you think you've got it, it will still ambush you at times. Most importantly, tell yourself it is okay to still laugh. Laughter is great medicine.
Alyhough I didnt speak much about it, you all helped me through some pretty rough times by making me laugh. Hopefully, we can do the same for you.
Mary, chicken soup?
P.s. I've claimed the 5th and in 20 minutes, it is legally afternoon tea.
One day at a time, Lizardmom. Just worry about today. Everything else will work out.
ReplyDeletewhen I came on earlier this morning, I had only about 3 hours sleep, my mind wouldn't stop, so I decided to brown up a roast and get it crocked, good timing, as it was just right in time for lunch :)
ReplyDeleteI started to try working things out in my mind, regrets, sadness, knowing some feelings were results of others. I went back to bed for a few hours, got up slowly, just cuddled with the hubby and am finally starting to feel a little myself again. Thanks to my boss for opening and letting me take the day to heal. LOVE YOU ALL SO VERY MUCH, I know you're here and it means so very very much to feel the love.
Mary, I think every time the rooster wakes you up, there should be fresh eggs delivered to your doorstep and he's just letting you know! now THAT would be cool!
ReplyDelete(or turn him into rooster stew...)